Life is short
Today has been a day. I’m loving the fact that its gloomy and chilly and thunderstormy… However earlier not so good!
I run a class for people with DUIs. I also do assessments to figure out how intense of treatment they need. Awhile ago I had a guy come in who doesn’t take any responsibility for his actions. He apparently got a DUI 6 years ago… Completed treatment (allegedly)… And then found out his records of treatment weren’t turned in and the woman who ran his class died… Without turning his records in. Long story short… His license was re-suspended bc of this. All of this is NOTHING I have control over.
He came to do an assessment when I was first learning but apparently no one told him treatment cost money and couldn’t do the assessment. He finally came back bc he got pulled over for driving with a suspended license. (Again nothing I could fix).
During group he is borderline pouting. Sitting with his arms crossed and looking annoyed. He is constantly sullen and basically throws a fit about everything again each time he pays.
He lost his job, causing him to lose his house (a boat where he lives)… Bc he doesn’t have his license. I feel for that I really and truly do. However, he talks about all the tools he has, and idk maybe I’m crazy but I’m selling some tools to make money to pay for 1) a bicycle and 2) this class to get back on my feet.
Okay regardless… If you are still reading THIS IS WHERE IT GETS INTERESTING!!
I have rules about group… The important one for this story is dont miss more than 15 minutes. Group is an hour (IF WE RUN THE WHOLE TOME…) so I lock the door. He comes to the door at 9:16… I really wasn’t trying to be a dick, but you are late. And that’s all there is to it. He freaks out. Starts yelling. It’s all my fault bc he’s here. So I shut the door and go back to group.
He sits down at the door and bangs his head against the door. I text my fiancé bc this guy creeps me out. Also text my boss and go on with group. He continues this behavior.
After group, a few people leave and he comes in. Tells me I need to add his name to the list. I tell him I’m not going to bc rules are rules. I feel bad but I am NOT going to be a pushover. He is constantly disruptive and a loose cannon… No thanks. He yells more. I tell him he can call my boss. My other clients are telling him to take responsibility for his own actions and group starts at 9 (I like my clients… They own up for their shit)
He throws more of a fit and leaves. Comes back a few minutes later asking for my bosses phone number, which I provide. He then tells me “you enjoy fucking up people’s lives” “I begged you to not give me treatment and you did” “you are the reason I don’t have anything in my life”. I proceed to tell him that it isn’t the case, but you, sir, clearly don’t want to listen or change your opinion so you need to leave. At this point I am called many names… Including bitch, cunt, motherfucker… And he slams himself OUT the door… Almost hitting someone else who begins to scream at him in the parking lot. WHAT A MESS!!! I prob should have called the cops but was worried about that setting him off more. He left and didn’t come back. Also after explaining to my boss, he isn’t allowed back into group. Thank God.
I feel for the guy… I really do. But you need to own up to your mistakes, follow rules (which ya know, is arriving on time) as wel as learn to control your fucking emotions. Ugh so annoyed.